Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction.

You Winked?

I’m back in the game again.  Well, not completely.  I dipped a toe in last week, taking the time to sort through my inbox and do a quick search to see if anyone interesting popped up. And sure enough, amongst the messages (many of which were the typical, “you’re cute” which I usually just ignore) […]

Something Old, Something New (A Response and More)

Yesterday afternoon’s post triggered an interesting wave of comments.  I’m not going to be able to get to all of them right now(I will, I promise. It’s just been a rough week.). As I read them, the thing that stuff in my head was that perhaps I didn’t do a good job of explaining myself.  […]
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A Wink? Is That the Best You Can Do?

I’m not a big fan of winks. For those of you who don’t speak online dating, members of any given site can wink at one another.  A wink is a low commitment way of telling someone you’re interested.  They’re always free (some sites charge per message) and require very little effort.  All you need to […]

Online Dating is Easy (really, it is)

Alright guys, lets get this out of the way:  Online dating is easy.  If you’ve tried it and didn’t get any dates, it’s because you were doing it wrong.  I repeat, if you’ve tried online dating and couldn’t get any women to go out with you, it’s because you were doing it wrong. Let me […]

Online Dating Survival – Lesson #1

It’s not about you.  No, I’m not about to go off on some pseudo-religious tangent. When you’re online dating, you always have to remember that whatever happens, it’s not about you. If you wink at someone and they don’t acknowledge it – it’s not about you. If you send someone a message and they don’t […]