Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction.

Smart Women Agree – Your Number Doesn’t Matter

Yeah, yeah, yeah – you are so sick of me on this topic already. I know. I’m sick of me on this topic already. What the hell am I talking about? Magic numbers. You know, the number of men you’ve slept with.  I’ve written about this several times. Most recently here. And as my regular readers might […]

Should You Reveal The Number Of People You’ve Slept With?

I couldn’t resist. Especially after watching the video. At first I was in complete agreement with YourTango‘s Experts. And then they got stupid.  Watch: So, the correct answer is NO. But if that doesn’t work, the correct LIE is 8. Because any number higher than 10 makes you sound like a slut. I swear my […]

Don’t Talk to Her, She’s a Slut

I often joke about my lousy memory. And it’s true, I have a really bad memory. But sometimes, stories pop to the surface. Nearly whole, with just the haze of time and knowledge. This is one of those stories… My elementary school was one of the smallest in the district, and unlike most kids, I didn’t […]

You Filthy Slut

I doubt there’s anyone reading this who hasn’t heard about Mel Gibson’s abusive, racist rants at his ex-girlfriend. The guy’s a real charmer. But hardly one of a kind. Be honest.  How many of us have found ourselves in relationships with men (or women) who we thought, at first, were really decent human beings only […]

Why Are We Even Talking About This – Safe Sex?

I’m a 39 (weeks away from 40) year old women who enjoys a healthy sex life and not with a single, long-term partner. I don’t think of myself as promiscuous. But the fact that I have anywhere from 2-5 new partners a year + a fb that I’ve been seeing for years (who I don’t […]