Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction.

Conflict – phobe

People look at me and assume that at 41 and single I must be a commitment-phobe. But it’s just the opposite. I have no issues with commitment. I just can’t tolerate conflict.  Alas, one doesn’t come without the other. Last night I was pondering my situation. And all of sudden I heard (coming from somewhere […]

I Still Get to Say No

So a funny thing happens when you’re my age and still single, well many funny things… One of those funny things is that there lots are people who assume you should “stop being so picky.”  And that the reason I’m single is that I’ve been turning away perfectly good guys for random, frivolous reasons. Oh, […]

This Says it All

I’m so far behind on life, that I didn’t even get around to popping in on PostSecret until this morning. I’m one of those crazy PostSecret fans who usually starts checking for new posts late on Saturday nights. I saw this and had to share. THIS is/was my greatest fear. That my identity would be […]

He’s a Man

I had a flashback, the other day, of a truly awful date. Let me say that again, a truly AWFUL date. It was a brunch date, a double date, at a popular brunch spot to which I can never return. The restaurant is ruined for me now. But wait, I’m getting ahead of myself. There’s […]

Long-Term Single

I’m a chronic insomniac (and I’ve tried all kinds of things, many prescribed by doctors, to deal with this). One of the things I do to cope is to lie in bed and listen to podcasts. Sometimes, I’ll drift off to sleep. Other times, I’ll just lie in bed for hours and listen. But at […]