Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction.

Should You Reveal The Number Of People You’ve Slept With?

I couldn’t resist. Especially after watching the video. At first I was in complete agreement with YourTango‘s Experts. And then they got stupid.  Watch: So, the correct answer is NO. But if that doesn’t work, the correct LIE is 8. Because any number higher than 10 makes you sound like a slut. I swear my […]

Standing with Planned Parenthood

I was young and not very experienced. And I knew that something was wrong, down there. I’d never had a pap smear. Never been to a ob/gyn and was absolutely petrified. And to make matters worse, I hadn’t been practicing safe sex. I’d been with the same guy for a while, and we/I was using […]

Why Are We Even Talking About This – Safe Sex?

I’m a 39 (weeks away from 40) year old women who enjoys a healthy sex life and not with a single, long-term partner. I don’t think of myself as promiscuous. But the fact that I have anywhere from 2-5 new partners a year + a fb that I’ve been seeing for years (who I don’t […]

Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell – My NUMBER

Oh boy.  Where to start? OK, let’s start here – Only an idiot would ask a question that he didn’t really want to know the answer to.  And yet… Last week Tom Miller  wrote an amusing column on Sexual History and why a woman’s specific number doesn’t count. I’m not going to parse it here. […]

And Now For Something Completely Different

Me, me, me, me, me, me.  That’s all you ever hear about it.  I don’t know about you, but I’m pretty sick of it. I thought it would be cool to start to dedicate one day a week to a different voice, a different point of view.  And I thought that it would be especially […]