Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction.

The Things We Remember

What do you remember from your life? I’m a fairly reflective person. I say fairly reflective because I have know idea where I’d fit on a scale from Not Very Reflective to Very Reflective (if this were a survey).  I mean, really, how does anyone ever know what’s average and what’s more or less than […]

Long-Term Single

I’m a chronic insomniac (and I’ve tried all kinds of things, many prescribed by doctors, to deal with this). One of the things I do to cope is to lie in bed and listen to podcasts. Sometimes, I’ll drift off to sleep. Other times, I’ll just lie in bed for hours and listen. But at […]

Breathing Self-Doubt

“Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” -Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy Sometimes I hear myself say something and I think, Yeah, sounds about right. That’s the way it was, last week, during my radio show.  I was talking about unhappy relationships, and how I’d rather be single […]

Making the Extra Effort

I grew up with a whole bunch of aunts and uncles who weren’t actual blood relatives. The aunts were all my mom’s childhood friends, and they stayed close throughout their whole lives. I’ve never had a group of friends like that. Never for any long period of time. And, for the most part, this isn’t […]

Resentment

I’ve been thinking a lot about this, lately. I’m not saying that I wish that things turned out differently. I don’t. There’s not a single relationship that I look back on and think, If only... But, I do look back and think, I wish I hadn’t wasted so much energy on being angry. Which reminds […]