Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction.

“To be uncertain is uncomfortable, but to be certain is ridiculous.”

So for years, going back to the 90s, I had this saying printed out and taped to my computer monitor: “To be uncertain is uncomfortable, but to be certain is ridiculous.” Now it’s hanging on my fridge, held in place by a Wizard of Oz refrigerator magnet. It’s supposedly a Chinese proverb, and I’m pretty sure […]


I’ve been thinking a lot about this, lately. I’m not saying that I wish that things turned out differently. I don’t. There’s not a single relationship that I look back on and think, If only... But, I do look back and think, I wish I hadn’t wasted so much energy on being angry. Which reminds […]

The Lies We Tell Ourselves About Love

All kinds of things bounce around twitter. Quotes from famous people. Social media stats. Links to videos. And sometimes, random shit about love. Speaking of random shit about love, here’s a doozy: This was bouncing around a while ago. I grabbed it in a screenshot, knowing I’d want to write about it, sooner or later. […]

Everybody Lies

Last night I got invited out to an workshop hosted by Downtown Dharma. It was, “Creating Love and Money: An evening to help you know your worth, create abundance, and attract real love.” Now, anyone who knows me well, knows that I’m not really the workshop type. Not because I think my life is so […]

Women Want Love, Men Want Sex, I Want a Drink!

Last night, for the second time in a week, I heard a man make the following statement: Women Want Love, Men Want Sex Now, to be fair, the first guy who said it presented it as a question. He asked me (and another female friend) if we thought there was any truth to it.  The […]