Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction.

Love the One You’re With

It had never occurred to me, as a child or a teen, to question the concept of monogamy. My family and upbringing was fairly conservative. And yet, it was the 70s, so lots of other ways of looking at the world were sneaking into my brain via music and tv. Whether I realized it or […]

The End of the Story, aka How To Find A Great F*Buddy, Part 8

Eventually we found each other (online, just like the others).  We met on a weekend afternoon at a busy Starbucks with people bustling all around us.  Somehow we found a place to sit and talk (we were both working that day, I remember, and the Starbucks was convenient to both of our offices).  We were immediately […]

I Don’t Know What to Call this Post

So, my regular readers have ‘heard’ me mention my fuckbuddy.  He’s someone I’ve known for a few years now.  He’s never been anything but a fuckbuddy.  We met at a time when I wasn’t in the slightest bit interested in a relationship (I was working 60+ hours a week and blah blah blah, I didn’t […]
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Open or Closed?

Last week I posted my New List of things I was looking for in a man and a relationship.  And, not surprising, the item that got the most attention was #3, “If we are going to embark on a serious LTR then he’s gotta be open to talking about us having an open relationship. I […]
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Keep Seeing This (Are Open Marriages on the Rise?)

I haven’t kept a count, but I’m gonna guess that in the last 7 days I’ve seen at least 5 references (on blogs and on Twitter) to single women getting asked out by or going out on dates with married men (who then disclosed on the date that they were married). I’m of two minds […]
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