Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction.

I Will Be Lonely for the Holidays. And It Won’t Kill Me.

Eight days til Xmas and I’m already suffering from Holiday burnout. I’m not talking about the kind of burnout that comes from too much shopping or too many holiday parties. As usual, I’ve kept all of that to a minimum. Truth is, I’m just not much of a “holiday” person. No, I’m suffering from media-related […]

Catching Up and Taking Stock

I called a friend, someone I hadn’t spoken with in a while.  He’s been busy, I’ve been busy. It happens. He asked how I was doing and I told him that I was finally feeling better and almost unpacked and fully settled in to the new apartment. Then, he asked about work and told him […]

It’s Not About Sex

The other night, while was lying in bed, I suddenly realized that what I miss, more than anything, is spending the whole night tangled up with someone. Held. Knowing that just hours away there was more sex to come. It’s not the sex I miss.  To tell the truth, I’ve been having sex pretty regularly, […]

Am I Intimidating or Are You Intimidated?

Recently Kelli Lawless did a great post on her blog around the idea that certain women were considered intimidating men (and why that might be). I commented with my 2 cents and have been interested to see how the comment stream evolved. One of the reasons I found this post particularly compelling was its timing. […]

The 4 Things I Miss Most About Having a Regular Guy In My Life

I was lying in bed last night, alone.  Thinking about how much I hate lying in bed alone.  And thinking about how much I miss having a guy in my life.  Which is different than being lonely, btw. I can be lonely AND have a guy in my life.  And I can miss having a […]