I’m trying to get better about using Facebook. I know that there are many (strange) people who actually prefer it to twitter, or who don’t (gasp) use twitter. For those of you who don’t know, I’m a twitterholic. I came late to FB. In fact, I started to use it about a year after I got on twitter. Yeah, I’m so weird.

Anyway, last week I posted a link to something on MSN (that originally appeared in Glamour):  23 Things Single Women Wish We Could Tell Men.  My fb update mentioned 2 of my faves, #9 “Texting a girl twice a week does not count as staying in contact. It’s meaningless and a waste of everyone’s time. Let her go.” And #22 “Taking us for granted is probably the worst thing you could do after cheating and lying. Since women are very good at appreciating each other, your behavior looks kinda selfish to us.”

I can’t remember what brought me to read it in the first place. I usually don’t read these things. Lists. Someone must have tweeted it or linked to it.  Anyway, I read it and found a few nice points and so I posted it to my fb page (which is different than the blog’s fb page).

This led to an interesting discussion between me and a couple of my male FB friends/readers.  First off, I guess there was a misunderstanding.  They, maybe, thought that this was some kind of list of things I want a guy to understand/know. Or, god forbid, my ‘must-haves’ (can you imagine someone with a list of 23 things their future mate MUST HAVE?!). Which is not at all what I thought/meant.  I couldn’t imagine saying any of those things to a guy.  Or meeting a man who magically GOT it.

The way I see it, men and women are different. Physically, emotionally, mentally.  And we see the world in very different ways. I know, from experience, that lots of guys don’t fully comprehend the idea of taking a person for granted.  Then again, neither do some women.

I see posts like that as a form of venting.  We girls, talking amongst ourselves (while knowing full well that the boys might be listening) about things we wish were different.  Because honestly, as much as I like guys,  my life would be a heck of a lot easier if we worked from the same rule book.

So… Getting back to that fb conversation, here’s where it got interesting:

“…as much as one can generalize about these things, I’ve always found that love to women is being understood (and by extension living up to their personalized list) and love to men is being accepted as they are (including not having to live up to some list)…and in that lies the rub.”  said by a very smart man, but I’m not sure I agree with him.

Do men and women really view love in such extremely different ways?  And do I, as a human being (forget gender), have to choose between being understood and accepted?  Can’t I be both?  Because honestly, if I had to choose between the two, I’d rather be accepted. Maybe that’s why I have so many guy friends? Hmmm.

No, not that kind of cheating.  I’m cheating, as in not really doing my work, with today’s post.  It’s Friday which usually means a list.  But I’m still sleep deprived and can’t make my brain work so good.  So instead of writing a crappy list I will instead share with you some really funny dating related things I’ve found in the last few days.

OK, I’m cheating again.  Some of these things I’ve found.  Others have been sent to me by my wonderful friends out in the Twitter/blogoshere.

• First up - this guy is openly advertising for wingwomen in Craiglists in the section where people list writing jobs(please insert your favorite joke about writers being whores).

• Next we have this awesome website called Don’t Marry whose purpose is to “educate men about the realities of today’s modern marriage”.  It seems that modern, western marriage is a bad business decision for guys.

• And here’s my favorite new online dating site (well, new to me): Farmers Only. I’ll let the site speak for itself.

• Now, talk about a funny coincidence, some of you might remember the young man who sent me the inappropriately pornographic email prior to our first date?   It turns out that my dear friend KB had the same thing happen to her, with the same exact guy(we think)!

• Oh, and this is my favorite one of all (cheating, again).

I’m a big fan of Naked with Socks On.  It’s a smart, funny and brutally honest site.  Nobody over there is trying to say the right thing (which makes me happy, as I think we all suffer when people say what they think we want to hear, instead of what they think is right).

Anyway, I guess I got a little behind on my reading again because I almost missed these two great posts.

Things Men Don’t Understand About Women

Things Women Don’t Understand About Men

I don’t agree with everything on the ‘things women don’t understand’ list, but it’s a fine start (and funny).  Here’s my top three:

1. Why do so many men have issues with saying they are sorry? (yeah, I’ve written about that before)
2. Why do so many men lie as their default setting when telling the truth would be just as easy?
3. Why are so many men indecisive?   That really pisses me off.

Dear Male Readers -please note how I said, “so many”.

I’ve been meaning to post this for days but, well, oh who am I kidding?  My “reason” is that I’ve been spending 12+ hours a day working on the whole find myself a new way to make a living project.

In case anyone’s interested there are things I’ve written in a couple of a few different places this week:

• BettyConfidential
• Your Dating Tales
• eight million stories

While I’m at it, I might as well call your attention to the fact that a version of my resume in now available right here on the blog.  There’s a link to it on my menu bar.  Just in case anyone feels compelled to learn more about me and/or moved to offer me a job.