Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction.

Constructing a Life

He was a decent guy. I mean decent in all of the traditional ways. He was close to his family, socially aware and seemed to be full of genuine goodwill towards his fellow man. Plus he was cute as hell, a drummer and spoke perfect French (yeah, I’m enough of an elitist – I’m learning […]

I’ve Never Lied To You

We’d been dating for about 3 weeks and in that time had already seen quite a bit of each other by NYC 30/40 something, busy professional standards. He’d spent the night at my place 3 nights that week and had taken to calling me most mornings as he was on the way to work, to […]


I was asked recently, “Hey [RealName], what’s with the name of your blog? Why is it Sex, Lies and Dating in the City”? There were a few ways I could’ve answered. Two of the most memorable shows/movies with ‘sex’ in the title were Sex, Lies and Videotape and Sex and The City and I just […]