Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction.

What’s in A Name

We only dated for a few months.  I was 20 and I guess he was probably the same age.  And I hated his name.  Hated it the way only a self-involved, 20 year-old could hate the name of a guy she was dating.  He had one of those really geeky names that brought to mind […]
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I was never into comic books.  I was a completely different kind of geek.  One of those teenage girls who listened to punk (it was the 80s – remember, I am old) and read thick french and russian novels (in translation, of course).  But I never got into comic books. So I never sat around […]
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Needs and Wants

In my last post I disclosed my need for a guy who takes the lead.  (I know, from experience, that if I try to have a relationship with a man who doesn’t want to have that role in our relationship then I’m going to be miserable). I’m still dealing with family stuff and so I’m […]
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Am I Looking for Dealbreakers?

So I was on a date late night, another first date.  Cute in a unassuming way, charming, a little geekly, a little edgy – all good things.  He’s 45 and has a grown up job that he seems to enjoy but that doesn’t define him.  We were having fun talking about silly things and the […]
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