Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction.

Can’t We All Be Friends?

Most of the guys I date are divorced. It’s not a matter of choice, just demographics. I mostly date older guys (and I’m 40). And a pretty high % of single guys in their 40s and 50s are divorced. So, that said, I’d much rather a guy have a decent relationship with his ex. Especially […]

Love and Stuff

It was a couple of weeks ago. I was sitting at the computer one morning, polishing up the post for the day. And emails were coming in every couple of minutes. And the phone kept ringing. And all of sudden, I realized that I had to stop. Something had to give. I’d just been to […]

Making the Extra Effort

I grew up with a whole bunch of aunts and uncles who weren’t actual blood relatives. The aunts were all my mom’s childhood friends, and they stayed close throughout their whole lives. I’ve never had a group of friends like that. Never for any long period of time. And, for the most part, this isn’t […]

He’s too stupid to realize how smart I am

I’m a sucker for certain types of articles. Claim to have a good explanation for why otherwise reasonable people do unreasonable things and I’ll give you a click. Even if I don’t expect you to have a good answer. I’ll read your post for the entertainment value alone. So yesterday I was thrilled to see this […]

It’s a Learning PROCESS

I’ve been sitting on this story for a while because that’s what I do. I sit on stories until I’m ready to tell them. Until the right amount of time has passed and I feel ready to put it down on paper in some coherent way. So a while ago I went out with this […]