Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction.

How About a Drink?

My preference, for first dates, is to meet for a drink. It can be coffee, wine, beer. But, really, I don’t want to commit to more than a beverage on a first date. It’s a time commitment thing. And usually, when a guy asks me out, if he doesn’t explicitly says, “a drink”, I suggest […]

If You’re Going to Kiss Me – KISS ME

So I had this date last week, the day it snowed.  But first some background info: * The guy didn’t have a picture posted with his profile.  He did send one pretty much right away, but with an odd comment about people “looking for him” online. Which was either a bad joke or a sign […]

There Was a War In My Head

So, as I mentioned earlier in the week, I had another first date on Monday night.  I’d been looking forward to it for a while. Or, as much as I look forward to any first date. I’d met the guy online weeks ago, but because of the holidays our date got put off until this […]

Learning as I Go

As many people/friends/readers know, I tend to write many of these posts a day or even days in advance. It’s really the only way I can make it work. Sometimes, it’s a same day thing. But that’s not the norm. So right now, as I’m writing, it’s Monday afternoon. But this will be posted Tuesday […]

“Let’s have a frank discussion about our favorite sexual positions.”

Or maybe not. I was actually looking for a fun, flirty (ridiculously hilarious) ecard to send to someone when this one caught my eye. Honestly, I can’t think of anything less sexy than having a frank discussion about sex with someone I don’t frequently see naked. Someone with whom I’m in an honest and trusting […]