Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction.

Smart Advice from People Who Know Their Sh*t (working title)

Still working on this title.  This one was a reader suggestion. As I mentioned last week, I actually have people who write to me and ask my advice. Which is kinda shocking, because I’d never ask my advice about anything. Believe me, I live in my head 24/7 and there’s all kind of scary things […]

Online Dating Story Du Jour

So yesterday was the day that everyone wrote about’s new screening policy: Starting soon, they’ll be checking their users against the sex offender registry. So not so much du jour as d’hier. Maybe it’s just me, but I don’t see this as a huge deal. I’m not going to feel any safer knowing that all […]

A Little Bit of Facebook Stalking Never Hurt Anyone…

Anyone who knows me (and this includes people who know me IRL and those with whom I have strictly online relationships) knows that I’m not a fan of facebook. As I’ve said many times, I think facebook is the devil (and, unfortunately, a necessary evil). So this whole concept of facebook stalking is hard for […]

Cheer Me the F*ck Up

As my facebook friends and twitter followers will tell you, I have coping issues. I eat when I’m stressed. Chocolate, potato chips and gummy candy all washed down with Dr. Pepper. Self-destructive binging. There are worse habits. Anyway, I was more than a little upset this weekend and rather than hit the corner bodega for […]

“Very Difficult Decision”

It was a couple/few weeks ago while I was still sick.  Coughing lots.  Trying hard to get better. I posted this update to my facebook. “Had to make a very difficult decision today. Said no to sex for another few days, at least. Still not breathing well enough/still coughing. I am VERY COMMITTED to resting so […]