Most of the guys I date are divorced. It’s not a matter of choice, just demographics. I mostly date older guys (and I’m 40). And a pretty high % of single guys in their 40s and 50s are divorced. So, that said, I’d much rather a guy have a decent relationship with his ex. Especially [...]

I stole today’s title. I was reading Salon and saw an article with this title and damn, I just had to steal it (that’s all I’m stealing, here, I promise). The idea/phrase, ‘the futility of reasoning with crazy’ just seemed the perfect way to sum up some of my feelings about love and relationships. And to [...]

A couple of people, upon reading People Change, commented that at least I wouldn’t have any regrets. And that’s for sure.  I’ll never wonder what happened to that ex.  What might have been. Nor will he. And that’s pretty much the way I tend to live my life, when it comes to relationships. Pursuing every [...]

I get a lot of, um, interesting things in my inbox. Like you wouldn’t believe. I try to stay on top of it all (it is a lot, and I’ve learned that sometimes it’s hard to quickly tell the wheat from the chaff) but mostly I fail. Anyway, one of the more random things that [...]

Let’s cut to the chase, shall we?  There seems to be 2 schools of thought. In one, people break up and never, ever, EVER, speak to their ex again.  Jane Wonder wrote a fabulous post on this and labeled the method, Dead to Me (I’ve since mentioned it repeatedly on this site). Other people try to [...]