Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction.

Yep – It Was the Dealbreaker

Sunday night was my much anticipated 3rd date with The Musician.  As I shared with you, I went into the date assuming that he was hoping we’d have sex for he first time (he invited me over for a home-cooked dinner, which translates to, “I want to see you naked” in my world).  I was […]
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Thoughts on a Lazy Saturday Morning

I’ve been sitting on my thoughts, thinking about what I would post in the future, when the kinks here at my new home were all worked out.  But dammit.  I have lots of shit to do today and I don’t want to wait anymore.  If it turns out that this transtion continues to take longer […]

More Dealbreakers, While We’re On the Topic

I met a good friend for dinner tonight and, as always, we found ourselves talking about my love life, or lack thereof. Actually there’s been a serious lack of love for a while now, lots of dates, no love. She’s half of a couple, so she’s good about listening and sympathizing, but like most of […]

Am I Looking for Dealbreakers?

So I was on a date late night, another first date.  Cute in a unassuming way, charming, a little geekly, a little edgy – all good things.  He’s 45 and has a grown up job that he seems to enjoy but that doesn’t define him.  We were having fun talking about silly things and the […]
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Online Dating Survival – Lesson #1

It’s not about you.  No, I’m not about to go off on some pseudo-religious tangent. When you’re online dating, you always have to remember that whatever happens, it’s not about you. If you wink at someone and they don’t acknowledge it – it’s not about you. If you send someone a message and they don’t […]