Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction.

What Are You Afraid Of?

Commitment? Intimacy? Dying alone? Failure? Everyone’s afraid of something. Maybe more than one thing. Probably more than one thing. When you’re single, like me, you have a lot of people randomly accusing you of being afraid of commitment or intimacy. Maybe it’s not so random? And others who ask you, genuinely, if you’re afraid of […]

I Heart Black Men

I’m so excited about this week’s Guy’s Story from Totally Tyler. You should totally go check out his blog! I Heart Black Men Anyone who knows me will tell you I am attracted to black men. Don’t ask me why. Not to generalize, but maybe it’s the suave swagger. Maybe it’s the skin color. Beyond […]

Single Women are Deviants

Like many of you, I’m sure, I’ve been so caught up in what’s going on in Japan and Libya that it’s been hard to pay much attention to domestic dramas this week.  But late last night I was bopping around the web, and this story caught my eye (how could it not). Unmarried: The Tempest […]

How About a Drink?

My preference, for first dates, is to meet for a drink. It can be coffee, wine, beer. But, really, I don’t want to commit to more than a beverage on a first date. It’s a time commitment thing. And usually, when a guy asks me out, if he doesn’t explicitly says, “a drink”, I suggest […]