Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction.

Can’t We All Be Friends?

Most of the guys I date are divorced. It’s not a matter of choice, just demographics. I mostly date older guys (and I’m 40). And a pretty high % of single guys in their 40s and 50s are divorced. So, that said, I’d much rather a guy have a decent relationship with his ex. Especially […]

You Can’t Have it All

Piling onto this conversation a week late, but… sometimes I just can’t help myself. About that New York Magazine feature story: How the Pill Changed the World, that had so many smart folk talking last week: Besides the fact that it was somewhat inaccurate, derivative and kinda insulting, it also seemed to miss the point. […]

Life Doesn’t Let You Choose

A friend was talking about the changes in his life over the past few years. Major changes. He’d lost a relationship, a career, a family member, had major health issues… And yet, he isn’t distraught. Because right now he’s living a life of creativity and challenge. Doing things he always dreamed of doing. He’s excited, […]

Do You Kiss And Tell?

I remember being asked by an IRL friend, after he checked out this blog for the first time, “Where’s the sex?”.  It’s a valid question. I write about sex in a vague and general way. As a theme. But I never give the juicy details. That’s a conscious choice I’ve made, based on what I […]

Attn Interwebs, I’m “In a Relationship”

No not me. Since we’re on the topic of facebook, one of the little things I find fascinating (read – bizarre) is how some people choose to keep their relationship status private and others make it public.  And then, amongst those who make it public, there are people who name names (I am in a […]