Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction.

Child-Free

Child-free. It’s one of those words that I just don’t feel comfortable using. Kinda like sex positive. It just doesn’t work for me. So even when it’s the most appropriate word for what I’m thinking, I probably won’t use it. Because, it’s just tangled up/weighted down with so much other stuff. Anyway, I’ve been intrigued […]

Just Have a Baby

I’ve got a couple of stories for you, today. Well, a couple of snippets that work together. There’s this woman I know, a friend of a friend I haven’t seen in ages, who’s pregnant. I’m so happy for her, especially since the last time we saw each other she was telling me that she was […]

Maybe I Should Change My Headline to “Non-breeder in NYC”?

I have no right to be annoyed by this, but that’s never stopped me before. So, it’s about online dating… A pretty high number of the guys I’m getting messages from and an equally high number of the ones I find interesting in my searches state a specific desire to have kids. Some are uber-specific […]

More Than Just Poor Planning

I was at a friend’s party, and at one point in the evening I found myself sitting with a bunch of other women. Most of us had met before, but none of us knew each other well. Somehow, I have no idea how (I was chatting with someone about something else) the conversation got down […]

Tick Tick Tick – The Baby Bomb

This came up in the comments the other day, and then again yesterday.  And it’s one of those evergreen topics.  At any given time you can find an article about it in one of the girly mags (this morning I found one in More). Here’s yesterday comment to get us started, “I had to break […]