Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction.

I wouldn’t join any club that would have me as a member…

We’ve all heard the old Groucho Marx line, “I wouldn’t join any club that would have me as a member”. It’s funny. And maybe, not so funny. In the world of dating, it’s frequently true. I can’t tell you how many slightly (or not so slightly) overweight men and women I know who say they […]

Still Single, for Now

The other day I was talking to my dad (actually, I went to visit him and so speaking with him in person…) and he said that after I left he’d call all of my aunt’s and tell them that I was doing well. The normal stuff. I don’t know why, but suddenly I felt defensive. […]

Why Are We Even Talking About This – Safe Sex?

I’m a 39 (weeks away from 40) year old women who enjoys a healthy sex life and not with a single, long-term partner. I don’t think of myself as promiscuous. But the fact that I have anywhere from 2-5 new partners a year + a fb that I’ve been seeing for years (who I don’t […]

When I Started to Feel ?

That title originally read, “When I Started to Feel Sexy” but I didn’t want to give people the wrong idea. This is just a short post about me and getting older. And being cool, better than cool, with getting older. Yesterday, I retweeted an article from YourTango about why women should look forward to getting […]

It Doesn’t Get Any Easier

I was at a friend’s 39th birthday party last night.  I told her “welcome to the club, it’s a good club”.  And I meant it.  39′s been a heck of a lot more interesting, so far, than 29 was.  And I’m eagerly looking forward to my 40th birthday in a few months. But as much […]