Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction.

Stories Change

A few days ago I mentioned a research study involving divorced women. According to an article detailing the study, “30 percent of now-divorced women say they knew in their gut they were making a mistake as they walked down the aisle — and kept walking anyway.” It’s easy to guess why this might be so. […]

My Springtime Wish: A Man with a Plan

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – nothin is sexier than a man with a plan. OK, so maybe I haven’t used those exact words (or maybe I did, who the hell remembers). But on my big list of turn-offs is guys who say things like, “let’s get together sometime this weekend.” […]

Love and Stuff

It was a couple of weeks ago. I was sitting at the computer one morning, polishing up the post for the day. And emails were coming in every couple of minutes. And the phone kept ringing. And all of sudden, I realized that I had to stop. Something had to give. I’d just been to […]

Coming Soon…

So I had this great idea for a new feature, Advice from People I’d Take Advice From. Yeah, the name sucks.  I’m working on it.  But I think it’s a great idea.  You see, for whatever reason, I actually have people who email me and ask my advice. On actual dating and relationship stuff. Which […]

Let Your Freak Flag Fly

Recently, the lovely and talented Taylor Cast wrote a post for The Urban Dater called, You want me to do what!? Sexual Fetishes. In it she details the demise of a promising new-ish relationship when the guy she was seeing shared a very specific and ultra-kinky fetish that was beyond her comfort zone. Which got […]