Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction.

Can’t We All Be Friends?

Most of the guys I date are divorced. It’s not a matter of choice, just demographics. I mostly date older guys (and I’m 40). And a pretty high % of single guys in their 40s and 50s are divorced. So, that said, I’d much rather a guy have a decent relationship with his ex. Especially […]

The futility of reasoning with crazy

I stole today’s title. I was reading Salon and saw an article with this title and damn, I just had to steal it (that’s all I’m stealing, here, I promise). The idea/phrase, ‘the futility of reasoning with crazy’ just seemed the perfect way to sum up some of my feelings about love and relationships. And to […]

The Princess Thing

So, I’ve become a little obsessed with the Royal Wedding. OK, let me rephrase/reframe that. I’ve become obsessed with other’s people’s obsession with the wedding and with everything wedding-related and princess-y. Like so many pop culture phenomena, I don’t quite get it. Although I’ve been reading some very interesting analysis of why people (especially women) […]

Smart Advice from People Who Know Their Sh*t (working title)

Still working on this title.  This one was a reader suggestion. As I mentioned last week, I actually have people who write to me and ask my advice. Which is kinda shocking, because I’d never ask my advice about anything. Believe me, I live in my head 24/7 and there’s all kind of scary things […]

The Island of Misfit Posts

I don’t know how other bloggers work (work might be the wrong word here), but I tend to write most of my posts in advance. On “good” weeks I’ll bang out a bunch of posts during the weekend so that I don’t really have to worry about it during the week. Except for comments, which […]