It’s not about you.  No, I’m not about to go off on some pseudo-religious tangent. When you’re online dating, you always have to remember that whatever happens, it’s not about you. If you wink at someone and they don’t acknowledge it – it’s not about you. If you send someone a message and they don’t [...]

I had a good date last night. Really good. We first connected online a few weeks ago. I winked at him. Yeah, I know, winks are cheap and pathetic. It’s not that I’m too cheap to send a message (I’m currently using a site that has a pay per message plan. I promise to dedicate [...]

I don’t believe in any rules when it comes to dating or relationships. I think everyone has to figure out what works for them. However, I have come to believe that there is a danger in having sex with a guy too soon (though I’m still not sure what too soon is). I used to [...]

Recently, I started a new job and it’s landed me in a part of town that I don’t usually set foot in. I’m way over on the east side of midtown, near the UN, which is a pleasant enough place to work. On my first day I decided to have lunch outside in Dag Hammarskjöld [...]

Here’s a bad but useful simile for you.  My single-ness is like a chronic health condition. I’ve been suffering from it for years, and sometimes it goes away for a stretch, weeks or months, when I’m in a relationship. It just always seems to come back.  I long for the day when I can kick [...]