Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction.

I Was Warned

It’s the dating story I tell most often: It was a few years ago and I’d been going out on dates 3, 4, sometimes even 5 nights a week for months and yet somehow no one seemed to make it past the 3rd or 4th date. And I wasn’t being picky. Really, I wasn’t. A […]
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The Politics Of Thank You?

A quick thought for this morning. Last night’s 2nd date (he was last weekend’s coffee date) was pleasant enough. Nice guy: Sweet, smart, polite, interesting.  All the good things. He’s just so wishy-wishy.  Maybe he’s intimidated by me?  I’ve been told I can be a little intimidating.  Anyway, I can’t be attracted to a guy […]
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Online Dating Survival – Lesson #1

It’s not about you.  No, I’m not about to go off on some pseudo-religious tangent. When you’re online dating, you always have to remember that whatever happens, it’s not about you. If you wink at someone and they don’t acknowledge it – it’s not about you. If you send someone a message and they don’t […]

Is Hope Bad?

I had a good date last night. Really good. We first connected online a few weeks ago. I winked at him. Yeah, I know, winks are cheap and pathetic. It’s not that I’m too cheap to send a message (I’m currently using a site that has a pay per message plan. I promise to dedicate […]

Rules, schmules

I don’t believe in any rules when it comes to dating or relationships. I think everyone has to figure out what works for them. However, I have come to believe that there is a danger in having sex with a guy too soon (though I’m still not sure what too soon is). I used to […]