Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction.

Archive for the ‘Poll’

Do You Spend the Night?

A long, long time ago I remember having a conversation with a friend.  I honestly can’t remember who I was talking to, but I remember what we both said. She, “I fuck who I want to fuck. I don’t get into this whole boyfriend thing.” Now mind you, this was way back in the 90s, […]

How Long Should You Date Before Marriage?

Marriage, and the decision to marry, intrigues me. I was never one of those girls who dreamed about her wedding. Never flipped through bridal magazines and stared longingly at the big white dresses. Not my thing. But marriage, as a theory and an institution, that’s something I think about. Kinda the way I think about […]

He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla – Is the Relationship Doomed? (with thanks to Em & Lo)

I’m sure I’ve mentioned before that Em & Lo is one of my favorite sex, dating & relationships sites.  Well last week they ran this letter in their Your Call section. Dear Em & Lo, I recently started dating a wonderful man. He’s smart, and interesting, and handsome and the sex has been delightful. But […]

Get a Room

So the other night I was out, having a perfectly pleasant night with friends, when I noticed a couple getting rather intimate in public just a few feet away.  They were kissing and touching and, really, it looked like they were a few minutes away from dry humping right there in the restaurant. Classy. We […]

Traveling Solo

I should probably mention that I’m writing this from a friend’s terrace (or maybe it’s a balcony), 17 stories high above a (unnamed) city.  And that I’m afraid of heights. So I’m kinda scared.  I used to be deathly afraid of heights.  Too-afraid-to-hang out-on-the-roof-of-my-building-on-a-nice-night, afraid.  Over the years my fear of heights has kept me […]