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WTF Bad Date?

I walk in and he’s there early.  Good start.

For a while things are OK-ish. Truth is, I wasn’t really feeling much of anything. We met ages ago and couldn’t remember much about the guy. Just a few random biographical details.

Anyway, things are going OK when all of a sudden things start getting weird. It doesn’t occur to me, until a little too late, that he’s had too much to drink. Or maybe, more likely, the small amount of alcohol he consumed wasn’t mixing well with some meds or another. I’m guessing, from experience.

One minute things were fine and then POOF he’s had way too much to drink (and continues to order more). He starts to slur and bring up ever more inappropriate topics of conversation.

And what do I do?

I smiled. I pretended he was sober. I acted as if his questions were completely appropriate. Even when he was kinda scaring me.


Well.. for lots of reasons, I suppose. I thought he was genuinely a decent guy who’d made a bad judgment call. And I thought we’d might bump into each other again (NYC being a very small town, in lots of ways). And I didn’t want to get up and leave him with most of a cheese plate left uneaten on the table (he suggested we order food, and I figured the cheese plate would have sobering benefits).

It was hardly the first time something like happened to me. People get nervous, they do stupid stuff.  It was what happened afterward that really freaked me out.

He texted the next day. No apology. More of a, “how are you” text. I’d already decided that if he texted or called with an apology that we’d be cool. Because, again, people do dumbass things.

I was completely caught off guard. At a loss for words, actually. So I didn’t reply. I was planning on it. I just had no idea what to say. And then another text… this one not so nice.  Kind of malicious, in fact. Maybe it was a joke, but it didn’t seem like a joke. So I decided to ignore them both. Because, you know. I’m just not that nice or into playing games.

A week later I get a message from him on facebook asking me what went wrong. WTF?

And the moral of this story is… the next time a guy starts getting sloppy on a , just leave.

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6 to “WTF Bad Date?”

  1. Emma says:

    I’ve had similar issues when on dates, in that the guy starts acting in ways that I’m really not comfortable with, but I continue to just laugh along like everything is fine. I really don’t know why!
    I will be taking that advise the next time I have a bad date.
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  2. TheDiva says:

    Wow, I can thankfully say I don’t remember a bad date of this kind … umm, unless I count all the times I got drunk and started spewing inappropriate things 😉

    Glad you made it out alive!
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  3. Dee says:

    Yep have to agree with you, when date gets sloppy leave. Then these guys wonder why they are still single!
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  4. I also had a few bad fates myself. sometimes you just cant tell what is wrong and what is ok. i hope i will find my prince soon also.

  5. Ben Willard says:

    Whereas, of course, from the male point of view if your date is getting bombed then that’s a result …
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  6. I think we all have had similar situations on dates before. Ugh…nothing worse than a sloppy drunk, especially if the sloppy drunk is your date.