A couple short thoughts.
#1 – I haven’t been getting out much, these last few months. It seems like forever. Health stuff, blah blah blah. Anyway, there was an event that I’d planned on going to. And I had to skip it. A friend was going and I mentioned that there’d be a guy there, a business connection kind of guy, that she’d want to meet.
Instead of giving her a detailed description I just told her that he’d probably be the most attractive guy in the room. Because I had a pretty good sense of who else would be there. Seemed like a pretty logical description.
After the event I asked her about it. How it was… she said she didn’t see the guy in question. I was surprised because I knew he was there. So then I describe him detail and she said, “oh, I’m not attracted to that type of guy.”
BUT he looks like a Calvin Klein model? I’d assumed there was a universal standard of male attractiveness and she would recognize him based on said standard. Pretty stupid of me.
#2 – Like most bloggers I regularly check to see which google search terms bring people to my site. Pretty frequently I see, “he was attractive but I wasn’t attracted to him” or something like that. I guess I wrote about that once. Maybe more than once. It seems like something I’d write about, as it’s certainly happened to me.
I know there are lots of social scientists and evolutionary bioligists who study attraction. Which makes sense. It’s mysterious and weird. Or maybe it’s not. Maybe it’s really simple and some of us just overthink it?