But I have to say something.
For a long time now, since last April, to be exact, this blog has been a home for the heartbroken. Each week hundreds (sometimes thousands) of new people (mostly women, but not exclusively) go seeking answers for their personal heartache and they find my blogpost:
They’re googling variations of the same thing… ‘my boyfriend has an active online dating profile’
And then they read my post and realize they’re not alone. Some people post comments. Some post pleas for help. Some send me email, begging for advice.
I’ve commented on the thread, more than once. I don’t have anything more to say on the topic. I’m just so sorry for everyone’s sadness. It may be hard to believe, but it eventually fades.
Here’s the thing, you found the profile. Your relationship either is or isn’t worth saving. The answers aren’t here on the internet. On some random blog. They’re with you. In your life. With your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife. Talk to that person. And if you can’t. Then break it off and get on with your life. Move on and let the sadness eventually pass.
Stop trying to guess what’s going on and just deal. Or don’t. But don’t imagine yourself into more heartache. You deserve better. #thisisnotadvice
Tags: Cheating, Online dating