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The Right Answer

I’m sure I’ve mentioned this before – I love eavesdropping. I mean, how can you not?  Real life is so much more interesting than fiction. Stranger and funnier and much more bizarre.

Depending on your perspective, I guess.

New York City is an awesome place for eavesdropping. Unlike other places, we’re out in the open most of the time. Living our lives in public. On the sidewalk, on the subway… Not hidden away in cars for hours every day. Well, most of us.

So the other day I was out and I overheard a great conversation. A bunch of girlfriends, all of whom seemed to be in their 30s. One of them was having boy troubles and the others were telling her what she should do. And they all had very strong opinions about it.

Now, as an aside… another awesome thing about is that if you ask any group of people for about anything – where to get the best pulled pork sandwich, for example – you’re likely to get a handful of different and very passionate responses. Because everyone thinks they’re right. And each person will be committed to their answer and will want to convince you that it’s The Right Answer.  For the record, the answer is, Daisy May’s. 

Anyway, each of these girlfriends was very committed to her answer. Call him, don’t call him, text him, don’t text him, don’t return his calls… it was a cacophony of girlymag wisdom. Each of them certain that their’s was The Right Answer.

I didn’t hear the end of the conversation. So I have no idea how, or if, it was resolved. But I gotta tell you, it took every bit of self control to keep myself from butting in and saying, “There is no right answer.”


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  1. Max says:

    Who doesn’t enjoy eavesdropping? :o)

  2. NikkiB says:

    I wonder what would happen if we calmed the F down and stopped over-analyzing (thanks, girlymags!) everything and every move. If we just did what we felt to be right, were honest about ourselves and our needs, and accepted and expected that honesty from others.

    Because, yeah. There is no right answer.
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    • Simone Grant says:

      LOL. Lord knows I do it, too. Hell, I overanalyze what I should eat for lunch (for the record, today it took me 20 minutes to decide it was OK to have the leftover 1/2 burger and fries from the other night). But that honesty shit is a whole lot healthier.

  3. Jane says:

    I have found myself biting my tongue on more than one occasion when I have overhead conversations on the bus, in restaurants or grocery lines. I like to think it’s just because I want to help but it does often leave me wondering why I think I know any better than their friends.

    I do however weigh in if I hear someone giving bad directions. For some reason with that I seem unable to stop myself!
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  4. Onely says:

    Eavesdropping is the best! I am also guilty of the super-obnoxious habit of looking at what the person next to me is reading or texting. I don’t kink my head over their shoulder or anything, but if they’re holding the item at the right angle I can see out of the corner of my eye. It’s really rude but I can’t help it.

    See some good stuff, though. = )

    Christina
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