Life is full of silly questions. And even sillier answers.
Take this one, for instance:
Now, for those of you who don’t speak twitter, let me translate. It was Friday, and on Fridays, some people like to give their friends shout outs (called #FF, which means “follow friday”, or literally = you should follow this person). It’s not a tradition I participate much in, because I think it’s been so overused as to constitute noise. But that’s just my humble opinion.
Anyway, my friend @GeriRosmanPR mentioned me along with a couple of other single woman friends. And at the end of her tweet she asked THAT question. The one that always sets my blood to boil. In any context.
How are we single?!
Because, it’s assumed. Since we’re all cool, smart, funny and great… we SHOULDN’T be single. Single is for people who are LESS than. Not cool, smart, funny or great. Grrr.
Anyway, I know she didn’t mean anything by it. It was a compliment and she was being silly. The way that we all are, sometimes.
The silly question was followed up by a silly answer. Now, just to get the silly storytelling clear (if that’s possible) I didn’t see the first tweet. Not then. I just saw Sarah’s reply. And I was confused as to why I was involved in a conversation that included, “I guess it is too easy to just say ‘because guys are dumb.’”
Confused and a little offended. Not seriously offended the way I’d be if someone said something racist or sexist, but mildly offended the way I’d be if someone said The Smiths sucked.
For clarification. That is how I feel, in a nutshell. Guys are not dumb. Some people are dumb. Some people are assholes. Some people are rude and insensitive. Men are people. So… some of them are likely to be dumb, assholes, rude and/or insensitive. As are women. It’s a part of the human condition.
Men do not have an exclusive on these things. I think I’ve always made my opinion on that clear.
There are plenty of sites that have a nonstop churn of posts about why either men or women are villains. Or victims. Or worse, who exploit a very shallow ‘conversation’ between the sexes. Mostly it’s just silly questions and silly answers. Humans suck. We’re horrible to the people we love. Worse to the people we barely know. Except for when we’re not. It’s fucking complicated.
Tags: questions, sexist, single, The Smith, Twitter