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No Resolution

We tell ourselves stories in order to live.

Joan Didion, the first line of The White Album (best first line ever)

We all do it. Tell ourselves stories. It’s how we make sense of the everyday monotony of our lives. The thousands of emails, the meaningless conversations and the nonstop internal dialogue asking, Is this really my life?”  Or maybe that’s just me?

We tell ourselves stories. We create narratives where none actually exist. And every year around this time, millions of people tell themselves stories of renewal. Rebirth. Renewed effort.

This year is going to be different. This year I’m going to take better care of myself. Of my finances. Of my health. I’m going to exercise every day. I’m going to eat better.

They resolve.

Every day, for the past couple of weeks, my inbox has been packed with New Year’s Resolutions related emails. Some are pitches from PR companies and brands. Some are daily newsletters from brands I like, telling me that I should take advantage of the New Year and…

Everyone is grasping on to the story. The universal story. That a new calendar year should (for some random reason) mean rebirth.

Whatever. I’m not playing along. Not this year. I’ve got lots of stories in my head. Too many. I always do. But I don’t have any New Year’s Resolutions this year and I don’t plan on making any.  #thatisall


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  1. sandyvs says:

    Until last year, I had not made any resolutions, EVER. The reason being, and this will probably make you gag, is that about 10 years ago, I started thinking of ways to make my life the best it could be, in all aspects. I’d already been exercising almost every day for 20 years, so that was a given. My diet was fairly healthy, but I started to think of the countries where the people had the best health and incorporated the diets from Greece,Italy, Sweden, and France and began to eat lot of nuts, yogurt,fruits, olives, wine and vegetables, with little to no processed foods or ‘junk food’.
    Mentally, I started going to yoga classes, and actively sought out programs and articles about positive thinking and attitudes, that made me a more positive, happier person.
    My resolutions for last year (2011) were: To stay at work until I got sent home, instead of exercising my seniority and leaving first, and (thinking of the French way of life), if I gained even TWO lbs., losing that before I had to think about losing five. I did pretty good until this Thanksgiving when I was working on that ‘two’ and gained two more! Now, it’s down to one, and I’m happy with that. Another thing that I’ve incorporated into my life that is NOT a New Year resolution is to lighten up on myself and just be happy. So far so good.

  2. D says:

    I’ve actually had good results with resolutions, especially over the last 3-4 years. I’ve been most successful when I stage them over time: i.e. for January I focus on cultivating new habit X, February habit Y etc.

  3. Jen says:

    I’m with you on this one, why torture yourself. If anything mine is to start drinking more in the day, just in case the world ends – I might as well be drunk for it x

  4. Sandyvs says:

    I did read another good idea. The person said she was going to ‘add’ to her life instead of taking away from it. For example instead of ‘losing’ weight, she was going to ‘add’ more fruits and vegetables to her diet.

  5. Charlotte says:

    I resolve to never make another resolution ever again :)

    Actually this year, I’ve given up smoking. It also just sorta’ happened, wasn’t premeditated, and it’s worked out so far. But I never make any resolutions. I feel like I’m always setting myself up for failure when I do that.
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  6. Nikki B. says:

    Personally, I was pretty damn pleased to see 2011 to the door.
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  7. znakomstva says:

    Resolution are not to make but to carry out.