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Home Sweet Home

I’m sure I’ve said this before, I can be pretty oblivious. So caught up in my thoughts and the slog of life that I don’t see what’s right in front of me.

Anyway, I was away for a few days. Not too far away. Just far enough to clear my head and get some perspective.

The first thing I noticed when I came home, other than that my was a mess, is that is still looks like I just moved in. And it’s been a year. There are still some small boxes in the corners, and the TV is still unplugged and sitting on the ground.

It’s really pretty pathetic.

What’s most pathetic about it is that I would never, never ever, bring some new guy home to this shithole. I’d just die of embarrassment. So basically, I’ve been dating, on and off for the past year, but deep down inside there was a part of me that must have known that I wasn’t going to bring any of those guys home with me. Even after many dates.

WTF has been going on in my head?

So what now? Well, I actually bought some new furniture a few weeks ago. And it gets delivered in a couple of months. And… I guess I’m going to have to get my shit together and make this place a true home. Clean and paint and organize and stuff.  Ask my friends for help with the things I suck at.

No more stalling.


6 to “Home Sweet Home”

  1. Patti says:

    Hi Simone,

    Sounds like your messy, unpacked apartment is the subconscious dating equivalent of unshaved legs!!! (If I don’t shave my legs, I won’t sleep with him!) In my own life, I find that the state of my apartment always reflects my state of mind. Once in a while I look around at my living room and think, wow, what a disaster! I need to get my life in order! Other times though, when it is too neat and organized I think, this is too ordered…I need to add some excitement to my life!
    Anyway, I love your blog and also listened to your podcasts that are still up on the internet. I wish your radio show was still on the air because I loved listening to it while I’m at work.
    Keep writing and I’ll keep reading!

  2. I have a friend who has lots of trouble cleaning his apartment, his apartment is so freaking messy. You just got to buckle down and get it done.

  3. Man-shopper says:

    Oh lord, I know how you feel. I’m in the same boat. Months ago I acquired a whole crate of painting supplies in order to paint my apartment, and I still haven’t done a damn thing. And I trip over that crate every day en route from my sitting room to my kitchen. Let’s do it, let’s get our shit together finally! :)
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  4. Hi love!

    I’ve started writing my blog again. Got all confident and bang…got made redundant. It’s put a spanner in the dating works yet again. I wonder if this is MY version of the avoidance technique you are using as above!? My home is all sorted for now…unless I don’t get work and I’ll have to ship out and I’ll be living IN those boxes.

    Still lovin the blog lady :)

  5. Lennie Ross says:

    Sounds like it’s time for a major Spring Cleaning. December is always a great time to clean house and start the new year off right. Good luck with getting it all together. I hear you!
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  6. I’ve just settled into a new environment myself, and while it was a drag at first trying to motivate myself into sprucing up the place, it felt so good as soon as the work was done. Good luck!

    P.S. I’m a new reader who found this site recently and it’s inspired me to start blogging myself. Will definitely keep reading your posts! Keep ’em coming.
    World’s City Girl recently posted..The TakenMy Profile

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