Shocking, I know!
He misrepresented his age by several years, and didn’t fool me one bit. I knew he was lying from the get go. He just looked older than he was claiming to be. But, I tend(ed) to have a fairly low expectation for the truth, insofar as these things go. In other words, I assumed most guys lied about something and decided, in advance, that I was going to be OK with it.
Anyway, I wrote about the whole thing here. And don’t really feel like dragging up the whole story, as there are bits to it that are really silly. Suffice it to say, I eventually confronted him in as nice a way as possible. And he admitted to the lying. And for reasons that had nothing to do with that, we only saw each other a few times.
BUT, many of my readers pointed out that the fact that maybe his less than truthful behavior before we met should have been a sign that he was going to be a less than truthful person, in general. That…liars lie.
Seemed like smart-ish advice to me. That starting a relationship out on a lie was maybe a sign that someone will continue lying.
So, here I come to today’s story. I was on a date recently. A fun, kinda awesome date. With someone I met online. But, and it’s a big but, he misrepresented himself prior to our meeting. In one small, fairly common way and one biggish way.
First, the small way. REALLY old picture. He’s still a very attractive man. But the pics he’s using for online dating show him several years younger and MANY pounds lighter. Whatever.
The biggish way is more troubling to me. His profile clearly says he lives in NYC. He didn’t say anything to me, prior to our meeting, to let me know that that was untrue. It’s untrue. He actually lives in the ‘burbs. Not a near burb. A far, far away burb.
He commutes into the city for work. Which means he’s here all the time. But that’s not exactly the same thing.
So what? Well, if I’d known, in advance, that he lived where he lives I still would have gone out with him. It’s not my preference, but the majority of guys I’ve been going out with lately don’t actually live in NYC. Not sure why. It just is what it is. My age, I guess. But he lied about it.
Not sure I should care. I kinda don’t. Liars lie, but part of being a grown up is understanding that not everything is black and white. Mostly it’s just a lot of gray.
Tags: first date, liar, online dating profile picture