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Vaginas Got Its Issues

The title of today’s post is a quote from comedian Carol Leifer, said during the WTF podcast (one of my faves, yes I have lots of favorite podcasts).

She’s a hysterically funny and accomplished woman. And, like many women of her generation, she started out having with men (including a marriage) and then ‘switched teams.’

At some point in the interview Marc Maron (the host of WTF) asked her frankly about the transition from men to women. And if there was less BS and stress with a female partner.

What followed was one of the smartest and most honest conversations about relationships I’ve heard in a while.

Best part came when Marc asked her if she missed cock.

She said, “cock comes with a lot of bullshit.”

To which he replied, “that goes both ways.”

And she agreed, “Vaginas got its issues…”

I was listening on the subway. I started to laugh so hard that everyone in the car was staring at me.

She went on to say that relationships were hard. Men, women.. it didn’t really matter. It all took work. Which is the smart answer.




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5 to “Vaginas Got Its Issues”

  1. Justin says:

    Do you have a blog post of favorite podcast? I assume you already listen to This American Life, WNYC Radio Lab, Risk, The Moth and XLR8R. I have a hundred others and should do a blog post of my own.

  2. Nikki B says:

    Ha ha! I would like to listen to this podcast, as well…

    But yes – I often *eyeroll* at ladies who state “I really wish I could just be a lesbian!” Honey, you have no idea.

    Relationships are work, and PEOPLE are crazy, stupid, mean, arrogant, selfish, etc etc etc. Regardless of gender.
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    • Simone Grant says:

      Blaming anything on gender is just lazy. Which is why I hate all/any advice that starts with “Men want…” or “Men hate.”. We’re all complicated creatures. And some of us are CRAZY.

  3. Liz says:

    I also listen to WTF but haven’t caught the Carol Leifer episode yet. A few other podcasts you might like (and may already know about): The Long Shot, The Mental Illness Happy Hour, and The Lavender Hour.

    I have some lesbian friends and can tell dating is no less complicated and frustrating for them.