Yeah, I’ve sucked at blogging lately. But that’s not what today’s post is about. And I apologize up front if I’ve already told bits and pieces of this story awhile ago. I honestly can’t recall.
So I was reading (skimming) this story in Jezebel about the lawyer suing the site liarscheatersrus.com. I have very mixed feelings about sites like that.
I remember when I first heard of Don’t Date Him Girl. I was fresh out of a relationship with a lying, cheating douchebag. The kind of guy who would forget his own lies and then slip up. I was so excited. I wanted to post all about him and warn the world about him.
But then… I realized how completely cruel that would be. The guy had a serious career, a kid, a life. And the last thing he needed was me calling him names on the internet. Names that might pop up when people googled him.
Which reminded me of something that happened while I was in college. I went to college in a crappy college town. The kind of place that had 1 ‘cool’ place to go out at night and one long block that was the hip downtown neighborhood. At some point I vaguely recalled these silly handmade posters warning women not to go out with a certain guy. They didn’t include his picture. Just his name and physical description (height, hair/eye color and that he was very attractive). And some rant that he was a lying, cheating asshole and where he hung out(the one cool place). I’m sure I thought it was hysterical.
Jump ahead to some drunken night at that one cool place and I met the guy. Not recognizing his name or really remembering the posters. I picked him up and brought him home (go ahead, be shocked). I’d like to say we had an instant connection but no, I liked him because he was the hottest guy in the club.
Anyway, it turned out we kinda hit it off. And the next day he asked me if I ever saw the posters. And when I wasn’t sure he showed me one. He actually took one and saved it. He thought they were funny. So we laughed together and he asked me if I had any questions/issues and I said no. We dated for a while and stayed in touch for years and I have to say he was a pretty decent guy.
So what’s my point? Well, he was good to me. Does that mean those other women had no reason to hate him? No. Maybe he really was a dick to them. But I knew what I was getting into, what their allegations were and I didn’t care. Luckily this was all in the early stages of the internet. So it was just a bunch of silly handmade posters and not his reputation being trashed online. Because he’s a decent guy. And I’d hate to think that future potential employers would see a bunch of junk written by ex college-girlfriends when they google him.
Tags: cheat, exes, liar