Before I start today’s post, I’d like to kindly request that all of my IRL friends and acquaintances stop reading RIGHT NOW. Today’s post will provide a level of detail about my actual sex life that most definitely qualifies as TMI. I doubt that I could look any readers of this post in the eye, so if you care anything about me, please don’t read any further.
Now, it probably wouldn’t surprise any careful observers of this blog to hear that I don’t always read all of the comments. I skim them all, but sometimes I’m just so busy I don’t have time to fully digest the information. And yeah, I’ve been seriously sucking at responding to comments lately. So sometimes I miss good or interesting comments, because I’m just not paying enough attention. And yes, that so could be a metaphor for lots of other things.
I think the idea of being GGG is way overrated. You are what your are and if you aren’t going to enjoy something, why do it?…
I wish I’d seen it at the time, because I would’ve wanted to have a conversation around that.
There are, I’m guessing, many people who feel similarly. Not me! Sooo not me that I’m willing to humiliate myself to an almost unbearable degree to give you all an example of how/why I feel what I feel on this topic.
There’s a thing that I really, really dislike. Really. And that thing is receiving oral sex. RECEIVING. I’m a big fan of the giving. But, I don’t enjoy being on the receiving end.
And this isn’t about the skill set of the giver. That’s what I thought when I was in my 20s. That all of the men I knew were doing it wrong. And then finally it hit me. My body just doesn’t work that way. My lady bits are just too sensitive, or whatever, and instead of happy, joy-joy I feel overwhelmed and jumpy and twitchy.
For a few years, I just told guys no thanks. It wasn’t something I enjoyed and there was no need to reciprocate and there were so many other, better ways to make me happy. But what I realized, over time, was that my doing that (saying no) was frequently a total moodkiller.
Not always. It all depended on the guy. Specifically, if it was something that the guy really wanted to do. Because, let’s be honest, there are guys who are really, really into giving head. And telling one of those guys no thank you is essentially spoiling their fun. And likewise spoiling my fun. Because they’re going to be a lot less into whatever else we do do.
Once I realized that, I changed my tune. So, for example, there’s a man I’ve known for years (frequently called the fb here on the blog) who’s a big fan of giving. He knows it will never get me off and that if I had my druthers I’d skip it altogether. But we pretty much never skip it. Because it’s something he enjoys. And because I do that for him (or let him do that to me, whatever) it puts him in an extra-special-happy-horny mood that I benefit from GREATLY.
Now, I’m not saying I’d do anything to make a partner happy and put him in an extra-special-happy-horny mood. I have, in fact, loudly said no to all sorts of things (there’s a funny/strange story about a cane that sat in the corner of my bedroom for a month because my boyfriend at the time was so sure I’d eventually change my mind and let him cane me). But I do try!
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