A thought: This Sunday’s Guy’s Story could have just easily been called, ” The Day I Learned I Couldn’t Be Nice to Boys.” And the story would have worked just as well if Christian had been a woman and the girl in the story had been a guy (or 2 guys, or 2 women…).
People, in general, don’t respect doormats. And no one wants to date a spineless jellyfish. Male, female, gay, straight – we all want to date a kind and considerate person. AND we are all (OK, maybe not all) also turned off by people with no confidence who are always wishy-wishy and bending over backwards to please us. Some people like doormats, I guess.
It’s just the way people are. We’d rather spend time with an equal. Someone with a clear sense of self-respect who brings more to the table than, “whatever you want.”
Luckily, there’s a lot of room in between. A lot of ways for a person to be genuinely kind and thoughtful and also confident. It doesn’t have to be an either/or thing. Although sometimes it can seem that way.
Anyway, I wanted to mention this, as some people seemed to miss that point entirely. And I’m really tired of listening to people preaching false dichotomies. TIRED.
Tags: date, guy, nice