It had never occurred to me, as a child or a teen, to question the concept of monogamy. My family and upbringing was fairly conservative. And yet, it was the 70s, so lots of other ways of looking at the world were sneaking into my brain via music and tv. Whether I realized it or not.
So, when years later, a male friend sung to me, “if you can’t be with the one you love honey, love the one you’re with,” it was like hearing a childhood rhyme.
If you can’t be with the one you love honey, love the one you’re with. What a concept. It seemed, for about a second, completely wrong and immoral. And then I realized that it was also very practical.
You see, I’d met a guy. A great guy. And we liked each other lots. But our relationship turned into a long-distance nightmare.
Along comes my friend singing, Love the One You’re With. And it made perfect sense to me. Why not? It’s only sex. And sex could be pretty damn awesome without any feelings involved. So if we just agreed that it was OK to have sex lives separate and apart from our relationship…
You get the picture. And it worked. And it didn’t work. Whatever. Long different story.
I’m not a fan of celibacy. I am a fan of monogamy, in some situations. But I also think there are lots of situations where open relationships work damn well, and at the top of that list is LDRs because, as I’ve already said, I’m not a fan of celibacy.
Today’s post is my contribution to The Insomniac Club. It was supposed to be about creating/sustaining sexual tension in the age of instant gratification and sexual bombardment, but I kinda got off track. Surprise, surprise.
F*cking in Brooklyn
The Book of Love Was Writ ten By A Sadist
Thank You For Your Sex
Met Another Frog
KB in NYC
The Urban Dater
How Very Lucky To Be A Girl
Miss Taylor Cast
Women Are From Mars
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