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The Princess Thing

So, I’ve become a little obsessed with the Royal . OK, let me rephrase/reframe that. I’ve become obsessed with other’s people’s obsession with the and with everything -related and princess-y.

Like so many pop culture phenomena, I don’t quite get it. Although I’ve been reading some very interesting analysis of why people (especially women) are interested in princesses, the British Royal family and the lingering memory of Diana.

I think that, for all intents and purposes, I had a fairly normal childhood. My parents read me fairytales and took me to see disney movies. But, I never dreamed of my own wedding. Never dreamed of my Prince Charming.

I have no idea why.

Which has me wondering… Are the little girls who play pretend princess and fantasize about big, fluffy wedding dresses more -minded as adults? Do they put husband hunting before career and self-development?

And do the little girls who, like me, skip those games, NOT prioritize getting married?  Could the random fact that I never played pretend bride as a child have something to do with my ambivalence about marriage. Or am I thinking too much again?

Here’s one thing I do know, I’m never going to have kids but I could have stepkids one day. And if I had a stepdaughter who suddenly became obsessed with princesses, I’d  probably do everything I could to get her interested in a sport or a musical instrument. Something else.



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  1. I think there’s a difference between being Marriage Minded and Wedding Minded.

    Many of these princess/fairy tale obsessed women are looking for a “magical” wedding day. When the magic wears off and they’re left with a marriage, they’re often unprepared.

    Being a Bride is easy and fun, being a wife? Not so much….


    • Lennie Ross says:

      biggirlblog… you are very wise… just read an article in Marie Claire the other day about how 30% of women who get married know as they are walking down the aisle they are marrying the wrong guy and they still do it… and then they wonder why their marriage is empty and get mad when their husband is cheating on them… well maybe because you didn’t love him in the first place and were just chasing a fairy tale or financial security.

  2. AnnieB says:

    My mother (83) was sure I could be fixed up to marry Prince Charles. Didn’t work. I married twice, before I was 30 (without the glitz and glamour except in my head). I didn’t understand then that marriage was a serious thing, not a fairy tale fantasy. You don’t need a fairy tale wedding like Diana’s to get caught up in that confusion – without the right message from your parents and real people around you, I think it can be easy for a bride to think the wedding is the marriage. The Prince and Princesses generation seem to be more aware of this – marriage around 30 is so much more promising of being realistic than marriage close to childhood. My own sons learned from my example. They and a lot of their friends started marrying in their 30’s for the first time. At that point the frills aren’t as necessary, I think, but they sure do make it tasty.
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  3. Roxanne says:

    I never dreamed of my wedding day when I was little either. I had friends who did and sometimes I’d play along, but it was wasn’t my thing. I was a child feminist in many ways. I really thought I’d live in a cool apartment with my best friend living upstairs. Who da thunk that I’d end up marrying young (now divorced) — so go figure? I have four daughters now. None of them are into the Princess thing, beyond the playing dress up on occasion when they were little. I really enjoyed the Royal Wedding, my girls had no interest, but I like things European and I think the history and etiquette are cool even though it has nothing to do with me, personally (I’m an American, an African-American). You’d have to pay me to go to Disney, though. But I also know way too much about serial killers and The Titanic so again — go figure. I think it’s good for girls to know that if they want a wedding, they can demand it or expect it (or wait for it) — maybe the girls who end up having lots of babydaddys should have aimed for the princess thing or at least the white dress — a little more– but beyond that, I don’t encourage it in my girls. I do admit that I declare myself to be queen on some days, but I digress. One of my girls said, “Why would I watch a wedding I wasn’t invited to.” She also said she’d like her wedding to be televised. Ha! A grown American friend of mine said she’d like a commentator with a British accent to cover her wedding. My GPS has that. Anyway, I think it’s a cultural thing, and even a regional thing in the U.S. By the way, my girls play instruments and sports. I think they are very cool. Occasionally, I say, “How are my little princesses?” — and we all laugh.

  4. Lennie Ross says:

    Hmm, well, if you’re analysis is true that would explain a few things in my life. My Barbie & Ken dolls were always naked and having sex with each other…