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Love and Stuff

It was a couple of weeks ago. I was sitting at the computer one morning, polishing up the post for the day. And emails were coming in every couple of minutes. And the phone kept ringing. And all of sudden, I realized that I had to stop.

Something had to give.

I’d just been to the doctor, a new doctor. And she told me, in no uncertain terms, that many of my health issues were being caused and/or complicated by , stress and exhaustion. And that I had to find a way to work less and take better care of myself.  So basically I was back to where I was before I quit my old job.

I’m a workaholic, at heart. I guess.

At that moment, I decided that something had to give and instead of rereading my post and hitting publish, I posted a gone fishing sign on the . I figured the was a non-mandatory part of my life, and until I could get my stress/anxiety/exhaustion under control I would just let it rest. Note how I said I would “get my stress/anxiety/exhaustion under control”? Yeah, that’s a part of the problem.

Later that day, my good friend (the brilliant writer) Jack from Brooklyn asked about the gone fishing sign. He was concerned. And when he heard what was going on, he offered to take things over while I got my head together and got some extra rest for a few days. He said he’d reach out to some of our in the blogging community to see if any of them would be up to submitting guest posts…

Anyway, I never properly thanked him or any of them, here on the blog.

So, thank you with all of my heart to Jack. And a big virtual hug to the other amazing bloggers who contributed posts while I was on my mini-hiatus – Alex, from The Urban Dater; Jeffrey Platts and Elizabeth Rose of Metanother Frog. You’re all amazing.

Now, as long as I’m babbling, a couple of other things… First off (already mentioned this on facebook but for some weird reason, you’re not ALL facebook fans) – I know some people who are working on a very cool new website that’s now in private beta. It’s a site for couples, and is specifically designed to help couples create more rewarding relationships. If you’re part of a couple and would like to test it out, send me an email and I’ll send you a link with a private invitation.

Lastly, I read this this morning and just thought I’d share:

Marry Wrong

Kimberly Goad wonders about it:

According to recent conducted by Jennifer Gauvain, a therapist in Denver, 30 percent of now-divorced women say they knew in their gut they were making a mistake as they walked down the aisle — and kept walking anyway. Only a handful backed out. The obvious question: If you know you’re marrying the wrong guy, why do it?

Amanda Marcotte, unsurprisingly, blames sexism.


My thought = Why must we “blame” anything?

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10 to “Love and Stuff”

  1. Dennis Hong says:

    Because that’s what humans do. We blame shit on shit, and shit.
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  2. Spike says:

    The obvious answer: it’s embarrassing to turn round and run off. Peer pressure.

    • Simone Grant says:

      OMG Spike, is that you. I thought you disappeared in to the North Sea (or something like that). Peer pressure sounds about right to me, too. But it’s probably more complicated than that.

  3. Lara says:

    I think when looking for a reason/person/entity to blame, we hope by knowing we can avoid it happening again…although “blame” certainly carries its own connotation.

    Glad you’re back, but hoping you are taking some time to rest, too! :)
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    • Simone Grant says:

      Thanks. I’m working on it. I don’t know if this is an avoidable issue. More like, something people are becoming more aware of, I’d guess.

  4. I think woman continue walking because they are afraid that they will be alone and that they won’t find someone else to love them. So they feel like it is better to be loved like shit and treated that way or be with the wrong guy who still treats her right rather than being alone in the world where there really isn’t anyone around to be there for her. That is what my mom told me when I asked her why she walked down the aisle even though she was panicking and freaking out.
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  5. IntrigueMe says:

    I blame pride. People would make the right decisions a lot more often if we had the balls to admit they were on the wrong path in the first place. And of course by “people” I really mean “me”.

    So, how’s that stress and exhaustion relief going for you?
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