It was a couple of weeks ago. I was sitting at the computer one morning, polishing up the post for the day. And emails were coming in every couple of minutes. And the phone kept ringing. And all of sudden, I realized that I had to stop.
Something had to give.
I’d just been to the doctor, a new doctor. And she told me, in no uncertain terms, that many of my health issues were being caused and/or complicated by anxiety, stress and exhaustion. And that I had to find a way to work less and take better care of myself. So basically I was back to where I was before I quit my old job.
I’m a workaholic, at heart. I guess.
At that moment, I decided that something had to give and instead of rereading my post and hitting publish, I posted a gone fishing sign on the blog. I figured the blog was a non-mandatory part of my life, and until I could get my stress/anxiety/exhaustion under control I would just let it rest. Note how I said I would “get my stress/anxiety/exhaustion under control”? Yeah, that’s a part of the problem.
Later that day, my good friend (the brilliant writer) Jack from Brooklyn asked about the gone fishing sign. He was concerned. And when he heard what was going on, he offered to take things over while I got my head together and got some extra rest for a few days. He said he’d reach out to some of our friends in the blogging community to see if any of them would be up to submitting guest posts…
Anyway, I never properly thanked him or any of them, here on the blog.
So, thank you with all of my heart to Jack. And a big virtual hug to the other amazing bloggers who contributed posts while I was on my mini-hiatus – Alex, from The Urban Dater; Jeffrey Platts and Elizabeth Rose of Metanother Frog. You’re all amazing.
Now, as long as I’m babbling, a couple of other things… First off (already mentioned this on facebook but for some weird reason, you’re not ALL facebook fans) – I know some people who are working on a very cool new website that’s now in private beta. It’s a site for couples, and is specifically designed to help couples create more rewarding relationships. If you’re part of a couple and would like to test it out, send me an email and I’ll send you a link with a private invitation.
Lastly, I read this this morning and just thought I’d share:
Kimberly Goad wonders about it:
According to recent research conducted by Jennifer Gauvain, a therapist in Denver, 30 percent of now-divorced women say they knew in their gut they were making a mistake as they walked down the aisle — and kept walking anyway. Only a handful backed out. The obvious question: If you know you’re marrying the wrong guy, why do it?
Amanda Marcotte, unsurprisingly, blames sexism.
My thought = Why must we “blame” anything?
Tags: anxiety, blog, friends, marriage, research