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Makeover Madness

I’m kinda obsessed by the whole make-over concept and the way it plays out in the media. There are TV shows dedicated to making over houses, brides, cars, families… Bring in an expert or team of experts and they’ll make everything seem shiny and new. And they’ll do it quickly (with little to no effort required of the person/people being made over).

Snap your fingers and everything’s fabulous.

So I’ll usually give’em my attention, at least for a few minutes. Which is why I stopped to look at this story in The Daily Mail.  Men were asked to give their wives makeovers (and some did pretty good jobs).

It got me to thinking… about a lots of things. First off, most of these couples had been together for a while. They’d gotten older together, had kids… And as so often happens, some of the men thought that the wives had let themselves go. It’s interesting to me how with some couples there is one person (husband or wife) who works hard to stay in shape and keep up their appearance while the other just completely goes to pot.

Then there’s the whole making over your partner thing. There are so many people who’d LOVE the chance to make over their partner. Which I find kinda scary, actually. I mean, if you’re with a who’s always in jeans and t-shirts and that’s the way he was when you met, and you want to turn him into a who wears designer suits (for example), you’re wanting to change a pretty basic part of his identity.  At least, that’s the way I see it.

Lastly, it reminded me about a guy I used to date, ages ago. He never tried to give me a makeover, but he’d make specific requests for me to wear certain things, look certain ways… Like, ‘can you wear that black dress with the lace and leave your hair down.” Which didn’t bother me in the slightest. At the time.  And I suppose it wouldn’t bother me now. He wasn’t asking me to look like someone else.  Just selecting from my catalog of looks. Black dress instead of red dress.  Hair down instead of up, no big deal.

What would upset me, I think, is if a man tried to chance my appearance.  Give me a whole new look – more polished or lots of pastels (I think I look dreadful in pastels and don’t wear them) for example.

Clothes, hair, make-up – they’re more than just appearances. It’s how we choose to present ourselves to the world. And that says a lot about how we see ourselves and wish to be seen. It’s kind of a big deal. Which is, I guess, why make-over shows are so popular.

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  1. Jackie says:

    I’ve been a reader of your blog for 3 months or so and though I always enjoy your posts, I never really felt like I had anything to contribute since it is always written so well. This post really made me think. I’ve been married to my husband for a little over three years, and I love the way he looks in anything he wears. However, I wish he’d shave his beard. I don’t find him as attractive when he has one. I’ve been wondering why this is, and I’ve come to the conclusion that he shaved everyday when I first met/fell in love with him. Maybe I am still attracted to the person he was, versus the person he is, and maybe that is something I need to work on. We all change, married or not, and the trick to marriage (from what I’ve heard) is to find a way to fall in love with that ever-changing person. Appearances and all…

  2. C. Fassett says:

    Omg, I know just what you’re talking about. My ex-husband desired for me to look different. He picked my looks apart AFTER we were married. I’d made it clear to him I liked what I liked to wear, etc., and had to tell him to back off many times. He wouldn’t let up, and even went as far as starting to compare me to other women when we were in public, and then later giving me veiled threats to change my looks, or else. He was all about image, and told me I embarrassed him. I’d never had any complaints before. I’ll never forget the feeling of finally being free from his critical gaze after we were separated.
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  3. Wynn says:

    I love how bf dresses and he, well at least likes how I dress, apart from the leopard print underwear LOL. But I only wear those when I’m up to things when he’s not around, the little leopard print partypooper. And of course, the times he thinks I’m the hottest isn’t when I’m pimped out and makeup’d, it’s when I’m raggying around at home in my elephant assed sweatpants and a sort-of tight T-shirt. He’s a strange man. The only thing he’s tried doing was to pitch the idea of dying my hair brown when I had thoughts about what to do with my worn, bleached tresses. He had to settle for red, haha.

    Now, of course, he isn’t allowed to wear those velcro touristy middle aged-man slippers, so some things I do try to change..
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  4. Wynn says:

    Oh, and he has pretty much deemed high heeled shoes as unwearable, which is totally a good thing for me, LOL, as I’m too tall (imo) and have never worn any.
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  5. Mel says:

    A makeover post with a picture of a dress I OWN… that I currently cannot fit into. Bah! Is it a sign?

    To be fair, I have to go size small with my strapless dresses because of my lack of boobage. But this year, my chest became too broad because of my strength training, and I can’t zipper the sucker closed anymore!

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