I’m kinda obsessed by the whole make-over concept and the way it plays out in the media. There are TV shows dedicated to making over houses, brides, cars, families… Bring in an expert or team of experts and they’ll make everything seem shiny and new. And they’ll do it quickly (with little to no effort required of the person/people being made over).
Snap your fingers and everything’s fabulous.
So I’ll usually give’em my attention, at least for a few minutes. Which is why I stopped to look at this story in The Daily Mail. Men were asked to give their wives makeovers (and some did pretty good jobs).
It got me to thinking… about a lots of things. First off, most of these couples had been together for a while. They’d gotten older together, had kids… And as so often happens, some of the men thought that the wives had let themselves go. It’s interesting to me how with some couples there is one person (husband or wife) who works hard to stay in shape and keep up their appearance while the other just completely goes to pot.
Then there’s the whole making over your partner thing. There are so many people who’d LOVE the chance to make over their partner. Which I find kinda scary, actually. I mean, if you’re with a guy who’s always in jeans and t-shirts and that’s the way he was when you met, and you want to turn him into a guy who wears designer suits (for example), you’re wanting to change a pretty basic part of his identity. At least, that’s the way I see it.
Lastly, it reminded me about a guy I used to date, ages ago. He never tried to give me a makeover, but he’d make specific requests for me to wear certain things, look certain ways… Like, ‘can you wear that black dress with the lace and leave your hair down.” Which didn’t bother me in the slightest. At the time. And I suppose it wouldn’t bother me now. He wasn’t asking me to look like someone else. Just selecting from my catalog of looks. Black dress instead of red dress. Hair down instead of up, no big deal.
What would upset me, I think, is if a man tried to chance my appearance. Give me a whole new look – more polished or lots of pastels (I think I look dreadful in pastels and don’t wear them) for example.
Clothes, hair, make-up – they’re more than just appearances. It’s how we choose to present ourselves to the world. And that says a lot about how we see ourselves and wish to be seen. It’s kind of a big deal. Which is, I guess, why make-over shows are so popular.
Tags: guy, Little Black Dress (LBD)