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Speaking of The Fade???

So, yesterday, me and the other fab members of the Insomniac club explored the fade. Some of my fellow bloggers defended as a legitimate way to peacefully end a relationship. Others were violently opposed to the practice.

So here’s what I want to know – how do you feel about it?  Do you think it’s OK when people disappear from relationships without saying goodbye?

Do you think the fade is an OK way to end a relationship?

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  1. Jen says:

    My boyfriend at the time of a year and a half did this to me. Just went poof! Never returned my last phone call or got in touch with me. Cowardice is what I think. He could not have told me to fuck off or something? Really. Grow up.

  2. C. Fassett says:

    No, I don’t think it’s okay, or being honest.

  3. NikkiB says:

    Thanks for the poll, Simone! Interesting results! :D
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  4. Dennis Hong says:

    I prefer a full-on ‘fro to the fade.
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  5. In a perfect world – where people don’t have feelings – the fade would be ok. Especially if you’ve gone on…say…less than 5 dates. You don’t have much invested and you’re not really owed anything yet (are you?). In the real world, I’ve gotten scolded for being honest (not brutally, but honest) and up-front about my lack of interest in a subsequent date. I still prefer to say something to the effect of “we’re not a good match” but I was still surprised to hear some people’s preference is for their dates to just disappear when not interested.
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  6. Ooh, I’m surprised to find I’m in the minority, supporting the fade! But a fade is just that, it’s a declining interest – usually on both sides – that happens over time. Or on one side, indicating there just isn’t enough interest to keep going. It isn’t dropping off the earth out of nowhere.

    I guess I see the fade as an option when you’re aren’t yet exclusive, and there isn’t any real reason to officially end things, because it almost seems to put the relationship in a more substantial light than it actually it.
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