I was with a guy, kissing. Well, we were doing more than kissing. All of a sudden I felt him biting my tongue. BITING. My tongue.
Not playfully nibbling. Biting.
Now, before I continue on with this story let me say a few words on this. I’m not going to pretend to be an expert on anything. So I can’t say, for sure, whether this is an uncommon occurrence. But I have kissed more than a couple (dozen) boys/men in my life and this was the first time anyone forcefully bit my tongue. And it was unpleasant.
So I stopped kissing him and said, “You’re biting my tongue.” Yeah, I know, genius.
I can’t recall his reply but it was something like, “So? I like it.” And then he tried to go back to kissing me.
I pulled away, determined for whatever reason to discuss the tongue biting.
At which point I told him (I remember using this word) that the tongue biting was ODD.
Again, he ignored me and tried to go back to kissing, and I let him. Until he bit me again. So I pushed away and asked him, hadn’t anyone else ever mentioned that the tongue biting was odd.
He said no.
Which I found/find very hard to believe. Both that no one had ever said anything. And that no one had ever found it odd (and really, really unpleasant).
Which is, I think, the topic of the post. How a person can go years doing something that seems perfectly normal to him/her. A turn-on, even. When that very same thing can be a total oddity to his/her partners. And no one says anything. And then randomly someone will say – hey, stop that. That’s odd.
It makes me wonder… why did no other woman say anything? Is it “normal” for people in situations like that to speak out, or do people usually just ignore whatever is making them uncomfortable or unhappy and hope it will be over soon?
AND, if the norm is to just ignore the stuff that makes you uncomfortable and unhappy, is that why there are so many bad lovers in the world? Because no one ever said, “Um, please don’t do that. It doesn’t feel good.”
Random: I couldn’t resist sharing this, The Kiss from The Cure.
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