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“To be uncertain is uncomfortable, but to be certain is ridiculous.”

So for years, going back to the 90s, I had this saying printed out and taped to my computer monitor:

“To be uncertain is uncomfortable, but to be certain is ridiculous.”

Now it’s hanging on my fridge, held in place by a Wizard of Oz refrigerator magnet. It’s supposedly a Chinese proverb, and I’m pretty sure I read it on the placemat of a cheesy Chinese restaurant. Or maybe it came in a fortune cookie?

Anyway, there’s a reason I kept copies of it with me for all of these years.  I strive (and sometimes fail) to be comfortable in my uncertainty. And do, indeed, laugh at the certainty of others.

No big post on this.  Mainly because I’m tired and kinda sick (more than kinda). But also because you either get it or you don’t. And me writing more ain’t gonna help.

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  1. jackie says:

    The ONLY thing I am convinced of is that I am uncertain. <3

  2. Sandy says:

    i really enjoyed your week of posts inspired by quotes. they led to some interesting and varied writing. also, with respect to this post, i get it. i’ve always laughed at the certainty of others but this is the year i’m trying to embrace my own uncertainty. i’m hoping that by reminding myself that uncertainty leads to growth, i’ll become more comfortable with it. then again, maybe discomfort is sort of inherent in uncertainty.

    • Simone Grant says:

      Thank you. I know I piss a lot of people off with my constant uncertainty. Hell, I even piss myself off. But I think it’s a lot wiser in the long run.