But first, because I can’t help myself
I know that many of my readers are way too young to get the reference, but it’s one of those random songs from my childhood, forever playing on the oldies station in my head.
So yeah, breaking up is hard to do. But for me, giving up is even harder. Once I’ve started a new relationship, any kind of relationship (romantic relationship, friendship, business relationship) I have a hard time admitting to myself that it’s time to walk away. I am, as I’ve admitted here many times before, a very stubborn person. And I hate to give up. I hate to fail. I hate quitting. And for me, admitting that it’s time to walk away from a bad relationship feels a lot like admitting to failure.
Which is stupid. Because it’s not the same thing. Not all relationships are meant to last. And I am not in control of the success or failure of every interpersonal relationship in my life. It takes two people to form a relationship, two people to make it succeed or fail.
But knowing that doesn’t make it any easier for me to give up. It still feels like failure, each and every time.
Which leads me to wonder (the way I wonder about everything) is this something other people do? Do other people stay in relationships way too long because they hate to give up? Do other people have that pit of their stomach ache that ineffective relationships are a personal failure? Or is this highly irrational and a sign that I am mentally unstable?
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