And that’s something I’m neither proud nor ashamed of. It just is what it is.
But 20+ years of dating, all of those men, and there are still some questions I don’t have the answer to.
For example, does and/or should a guy’s job matter. Yesterday, I came across this post in YourTango, “Judging a Guy’s Dating Potential by his Job.” Which on the surface, sounds kinda harsh. But then it talks about Health.com’s list of “10 Careers with High Rates of Depression”. And that’s pretty legit. Some careers do have much higher rates of depression. And it’s not unwise to take that into consideration, I guess.
But, beyond basic stats about depression rates? I’ve already established that my preconceived notions about guys who work in finance were unfair. Am I ready to let go of my other “issues”. Or rather, my one big issue.
I’m fairly sure I’ve written about this before. At least once or twice. I have a history. A not great track record. With guys in the entertainment industry. I don’t go after guys in those fields. Far from it. I live in NYC. They’re pretty much everywhere. I’ve always had friends who worked in theater/tv/film/music… and for whatever reason I’ve dated quite a few of them. And no I don’t really want to go into much detail here.
Anyway, I’m starting to think (AGAIN) that I should stop dating them. It’s not just the musicians and actors (although that’s a no-brainer that I fall down on at least 1 or 2 times a year). It’s the behind the scenes guys. The producers, writers, makers and doers of all kinds. The successful ones are all (warning – wild generalization) wonderfully charismatic.
They woo so well.
Anyway, I mention this now because I’m likely going out with one of them this week. Unless, of course, I decide that no good can ever come of me dating a guy in the entertainment industry. That I should learn from past mistakes and not even bother.