I have no right to be annoyed by this, but that’s never stopped me before.
So, it’s about online dating… A pretty high number of the guys I’m getting messages from and an equally high number of the ones I find interesting in my searches state a specific desire to have kids. Some are uber-specific about it in their profiles. And some of these guys are 5-15 years older than me, and childless, so I’m guessing they’re suddenly in a hurry.
Whereas, there is zero chance of my bearing a child. ZERO. I adore kids. Always have. And I’m completely open to adoption if my theoretical future mate wanted one. But my baby making parts aren’t available for use.
This would be an issue no matter how I was meeting guys. Online dating puts it out on the table from the get go. Which is great/awful. Seriously, I prefer to have it out there, rather than waiting until we’re already in relationship mode. But this time around, it seems like more of an issue. Like there is a higher % of guys seeking baby makers, I mean their future wives and mothers of their children. Which would be awesome if that’s what I wanted.
There’s just no tactful way of saying to a guy, “Thanks for writing, but I see you’re really into having kids. I adore children and wouldn’t mind adopting a few. But my body won’t be producing any for you or anyone else.”
I mean, I could write that. But no sane man would ever reply.
PS. Yes, I went out with this guy. But, for reasons I don’t feel comfortable mentioning, I don’t feel comfortable writing about it. Right now. Maybe I will in the future.
Tags: babies, guy