I was on the phone last night, telling a friend about a date I have coming up (later today, wish me luck). It’s a guy I met online, and as I wrote about yesterday, his profile isn’t fabulous. It’s not horrible (good spelling and grammar). Just not fabulous.
So, I was telling my friend about it. And he (my friend) asked me what was wrong with the profile and why I sounded so tentative about the date. I stumbled a bit, because it was hard for me to put into words.
The thing is, this guy, his profile goes to great lengths to demonstrate just how happy and successful he is. In a way that crosses the line from proud-of-myself-and-my-accomplishments to arrogant-asshole. Demolishes the line. In my opinion.
Like, maybe he’s trying to present himself in the best possible way. Talk himself up. Perhaps overcompensate a bit for the things that he’s concerned about (like his age, which is more than 10+ years older than me and I’m guessing most of the women he approaches).
Now, honestly, back when my online dating message box was getting flooded with a dozen + new messages a day, I probably wouldn’t have given this guy a chance. Arrogance/bragging is a major turn-off for me. But right now, this guy is the pick of the litter. And it’s really important to me to get back out there and start dating again.
Wow, that sounds bad. Like I’m totally settling for the best of my bad options. That really isn’t it. I’m just in a place where I’m thinking more about the person who’s writing the profile, rather than the profile itself. And I’m thinking that if a friend described this guy to me, I’d probably be curious and want to meet him.
Anyway, I’ll know soon enough if my instincts were right. If he’s a decent guy or an arrogant douchebag. I really hope it’s the former, as I’ve had my fill of the latter.
Tags: decent guy, douchebag, NSA, Online dating, online dating profile picture