Last night, for the second time in a week, I heard a man make the following statement:
Now, to be fair, the first guy who said it presented it as a question. He asked me (and another female friend) if we thought there was any truth to it. The second preached it as gospel. Saying, in essence, that men woke up every morning thinking about sex (which, I’d imagine is true, in many cases) and women woke up every morning thinking about love (which I know to be false, as I am a woman and I can’t remember the last time I woke up thinking about love).
I’ve certainly made plenty of ridiculous generalizations in my time. PLENTY. And, for sure, any time anyone says, “men want X” or “women want Y” they are sure to be wrong because human beings are complex creatures and not all men nor all women are alike (hence my general distaste for dating advice and the dispensing of wisdom that starts with, “Men are…”). But I find this particular pearl of wisdom particularly distasteful and here’s why:
1) If you were to create a pie chart of the last decade of my life, and divide it up by how many days I awoke thinking of sex, love and then a third slice called other (because there are some days when both sex & love are nowhere on my radar screen, it would look something like this:
2) I know actual straight men, with functioning penises, whose charts would reflect a much higher percentage of time focused on love.
Just because people repeat things, over and over, doesn’t make them true.
Oh yeah, today was supposed to be a poll. I guess I’m still off schedule. Or something.
Tags: dating advice, men, quote, sex, Women