Two little words.
I don’t know about anyone else, but for me, those 2 little words can sometimes feel like the most important words in the world. That’s right, more important that, I love you. Note: I don’t put much stock in ‘I love you’. But that’s for another day.
When someone I care about hurts me, those words have the power to set things straight between us. To set our relationship back on track. This goes for friends, family and lovers, btw.
And when someone hurts me, but then refuses to acknowledge any fault or or wrong-doing (in other words, doesn’t apologize) it can compound that initial hurt. I’m not proud of this fact, but I tend to hold grudges. To hold on to hurt for far too long. I don’t think this is a good thing, it just IS. And yeah, I’m working on it. Most of the grudges I’ve held onto in my life have been born out of festering hurt compounded by a lack of a simple apology.
Anyway… there is a flipside to this. Sometimes, I’m sorry, isn’t enough.
I’m not sure if there are people who can relate to this, but I’m guessing so. I’ve been in situations where I’m sorry becomes the default setting. The first words of every sentence. A meaningless get-out-of-jail-free card.
I’m sorry, I’m late, again.
I’m sorry, I didn’t call when I said I would.
I’m sorry, I have to cancel our plans.
I’m sorry, I forgot.
In other words, I’m just going to do what I want, when I want, without regard to you or your feelings. And then I’ll say, I’m sorry. Not because I am, but because I want you to not be mad. VERY UNCOOL!
Of course, there are other times when, I’m sorry, isn’t enough. Some hurt is just too big to be washed away by a simple apology. I think.
Tags: apology, feelings, relationship, sorry