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Sometimes, “I’m Sorry”, Isn’t Enough

I’m .

Two little words.

I don’t know about anyone else, but for me, those 2 little words can sometimes feel like the most important words in the world. That’s right, more important that, I love you. Note: I don’t put much stock in ‘I love you’. But that’s for another day.

When someone I care about hurts me, those words have the power to set things straight between us. To set our back on track. This goes for friends, family and lovers, btw.

And when someone hurts me, but then refuses to acknowledge any fault or or wrong-doing (in other words, doesn’t apologize) it can compound that initial hurt. I’m not proud of this fact, but I tend to hold grudges. To hold on to hurt for far too long.  I don’t think this is a good thing, it just IS. And yeah, I’m working on it. Most of the grudges I’ve held onto in my life have been born out of festering hurt compounded by a lack of a simple .

Anyway… there is a flipside to this.  Sometimes, I’m sorry, isn’t enough.

I’m not sure if there are people who can relate to this, but I’m guessing so.  I’ve been in situations where I’m sorry becomes the default setting. The first words of every sentence. A meaningless get-out-of-jail-free card.

I’m sorry, I’m late, again.

I’m sorry, I didn’t call when I said I would.

I’m sorry, I have to cancel our plans.

I’m sorry, I forgot.

In other words, I’m just going to do what I want, when I want, without regard to you or your .  And then I’ll say, I’m sorry. Not because I am, but because I want you to not be mad.  VERY UNCOOL!

Of course, there are other times when, I’m sorry, isn’t enough. Some hurt is just too big to be washed away by a simple apology. I think.

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5 to “Sometimes, “I’m Sorry”, Isn’t Enough”

  1. Taylor Cast says:

    You took the words right out of my mouth. Literally. My next post was going to be about this. Anyway, yes sometimes I’m sorry does not forgive all sins. Someone hurt me very deeply & like you said the hurt is just too big. He keeps saying how sorry he is but it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t hurt any less even if he is sorry. I wish that instead of saying I’m sorry he’d take steps, take action to show me that he means it. Words are nothing unless we back them up with actions. I’m sorry I’m late again needs to be rectified by being on time. Great post!

    • Simone Grant says:

      Thanks darling and I hope you’re going to go ahead and write your post, too.

      You hit it on the head – words that are not backed up with actions are pretty much meaningless. Apologies can be powerful. They can also be a load of crap.

  2. Sandyvs says:

    There have been times when someone has said “I’m sorry” to me and my reply was, “I agree”.

  3. Eschelle says:

    the words “sorry” and “i love you” have a parallel cause those words are never good enough to express your emotion.