So I’m packing for my move. And I’m trying to be as unsentimental as possible. This isn’t all that hard for me as I’m not a particularly sentimental person. I’ve never been one to save ticket stubs, playbills or stuff like that.
So far, I’ve chucked out hundreds of old photos (because if I haven’t looked at it in over a decade, chances are, I never will) and dozens of tchotchkes(mugs, shot glasses, random ceramics) that have been given to me as gifts over the years. Again, if I haven’t looked at it, or used it, in years….
All of this cleaning and cleansing does has me thinking of people I haven’t seen in a while. For all kinds of reasons.
Anyway, it hit me that I know/have known a handful of people (more than a handful), both men and women (gay and straight) who have pretty much never been single. They’ve gone from one very serious LTR to another. In some cases, they’ve gone from living with one person to living with another, with no break in between (and yes, this meant that the second of those relationships was started as affairs).
Once I started to think of one of those people, I started to think of another, and then another, and another. And it hit me that I know quite a few. One, a straight guy, is on his third live-in relationship in the decade or so that I’ve known him(one was a marriage). Never once stopping for a moment of single life. Each new woman starting as “the other woman”.
I guess there are some people who just can’t bear to be single. Ever. Who can’t leave a relationship when it’s no longer working for them? I don’t know.
What I do know is that for me, it’s normal to be single. It feels normal. Like this is OK, or how it’s maybe supposed to be. Which doesn’t mean I’m not happy when I’m not single. Just that single doesn’t feel wrong. Like something to be avoided at all costs.
Tags: cheat, LTR, single